How to be the Next Oprah and Unlock Your Dreams in 7 Simple Steps

Everyone wants to be like Oprah, rich, important and living their dreams but not everyone knows how to achieve it. Well it is not rocket science and below I show you the 7 simple steps you can use to be the Next Oprah, the person of importance that makes their dreams come true. At one point in her life Oprah was just like you, someone with the potential to make a difference and live the life of their dreams. You can do the same and here is how.

1.    Be Genuine 

This goes without saying or does it. At some point in time even Oprah like the rest of us hid behind a make believe veil of perfection. Oprah repeatedly talks about how she tried to be like Barbara Walters but that did not work for her. Instead she had to discover how to be Oprah Winfrey and trust that would be good enough and boy has it been. Be genuine in everything you do.

2.    Be Unique

You are already unique. Yes you. God has given us all a promise; which is the unique gifts and talents we are born with. Oprah used her ability to speak and connect as the platform from which she realized her dreams and you can do the same. What gifts and talents do you have to offer?

3.    Practice Connection over Controversy

Before Oprah most talk show hosts used controversial topics to captivate and hook the audience. Even Oprah admitted using controversy at first as she competed against the long time favorite Phil Donahue. Oprah realized connecting with the audience was more powerful and rewarding than using controversial topics. In a way Oprah being herself and sharing her own life experiences and pitfalls to connect with the audience was controversial. For instance Remember the weight loss chronicles and Oprah towing the huge bag of fat. As crazy as it seemed we all could connect with her weight loss odyssey. She experienced and expressed how many of us felt while giving us the right to feel okay about not being perfect.

4.    Be Honest and Open

Oprah has shared many parts of her life with us, from her weight odyssey to her court battles, love life and accomplishments. She has shed tears with us and let us in on how it feels to be a person dealing with the challenges of everyday life. I think as people we are always interested in what other people in our situation might think or feel. Oprah let us in on the secret that is her life and we thanked her for it.

5.   Relate to People

Seek to understand where people are coming from, what they go through, how they think and feel. It gives you greater insight into the human emotion allowing you to form a bond that can last a lifetime.

6.     Start Believing

Belief is an active practice it means taking action with the knowing that somehow things will work in your favor. Oprah started her OWN station believing that she could make it work. Much of Oprah’s life and success is based on belief.

7.    Change/Challenge/Growth

Change is a natural and necessary part of life. Change is about becoming through overcoming. Change usually comes through the Challenges we encounter that present us with opportunities to grow and become the person capable of achieving what we desire. Oprah has embraced and even mastered this process and it is crucial that you do as well. If you want to be the next Oprah and unlock your dreams take this simple step first.

Below I have chapter 6 of my book The Promised Land that will show you how to embrace change so you can utilize the challenges and grow into the person who will achieve your desired dreams.

Are you the next Oprah Winfrey?

By Dominic Copeland

By Dominic Copeland

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The Colorado Movie shooting…What it Means.

I can remember when I was around 10 years old. It was late at night and I was in my mother’s room watching television, something we often did together. My mother turned to me and said the world is going to be changing. I turned to her and said, mom what do you mean? She said the world would begin to devour itself. Now this was not the typically conversation my mother and I would have so I turned back to her kind of worried and said what do you mean? She replied, mother would turn against child, child against mother, father against family and friend against friend. Humanity would cease to be because what was humane about us would no longer exist. My mother also told me that someone would have to stand up to do something about this but she did not know who.

Fast forward to 1999 I’m a junior in college. The television is on and they are reporting in part about a young girl. Her name is Rachel, a 17year old senior in high school. Like most people Rachel wanted her life to matter, she wanted to make a difference in the world. She often felt like many of us do or have that the daily routine of life was eating her alive swallowing the part of herself that was special. She believed that small acts of random kindness could change the world, could make a difference. This day in April she sat as she did many other days, in her classroom drawing in her journal.

This day though, she drew something a little unique. Rachel drew a flower and it was growing through concrete. We all know that flowers need fresh nutritious soil to be nourished and give them the strength to grow. From the petals of the flower there were tears falling down, 13 in all and they seemed to be what was nourishing the flower. It was morning time and by lunch Rachel Scott would become the first victim of the Columbine School massacre. She along with 12 others, 13 in total would fall victim that day, like tears from a flower. For me this was the first clear-cut sign that what my mother told me all those years earlier would come true. And if I had any doubt about it the events over the years have clarified those doubts.

Each week we seem to hear another incident of a child disappearing only to find evidence that the mother had something to do with murder of her own child. We have had numerous incidents of children attacking and murdering the ones who have cared for them. More and more there are stories of father’s brutally murdering their entire family. Since 1999 we have had continual stories of people shooting their colleagues at work, excessive school shootings and other outright random acts of violence. Bringing us almost full circle back to Colorado where earlier this very morning 12 people were shot and killed in a movie theater with an additional 58 or so suffering gun shot wounds. The mayor of Denver was saying that this was an isolated incident. Unfortunately I cannot agree with that because these events continue to happen, escalating in scope and atrocity. Humanity is ceasing to exist because we are losing what makes us most humane.

I do believe that from our darkest moment, that out of our greatest despair can come even greater growth. That out of this adversity can come triumph as we realize the opportunity presented to us to make a difference. As trying as these times are they are also right where we are meant to be. I believe there is a meaning and purpose to life, that humanity has a purpose and there is a Promised Land waiting within us. Your life matters and you are significant. We have been given a promise that through our overcoming of obstacles can come purpose and meaning as we make a difference within ourselves, others and the world around us. But we have to make the changes necessary to realize the growing opportunity before us or be devoured by the mounting adversities. There is a Promised Land awaiting us, within us and until we decide to make a difference in ourselves, others and the world around us we will be unable to reach it. And until we reach The Promised Land we will continually be faced with mounting violence and chaos until humanity itself ceases to exist.

True Power, What it is and How You Can Get Some

My wife a while back visited a family member and had an interesting story to tell me when she returned. This family member lived in Philadelphia just a few blocks away from Temple University. Her neighbor was sick and unable to fully care of himself. The entire neighborhood got together and decided they would each take turns making the neighbor meals. They would not only make meals for the neighbor they would take them over, spend some time with him and make sure he was well-kept after and in good spirits. So they came up with a schedule and one by one three days times per day and seven days per week they took turns looking after their neighbor.

How remarkable is this, an entire neighborhood of twenty or more people banding together for the best interests of one. They all seemed to understand that one day it could very well be them in need of a good neighbor or two. For them their neighbor did not represent just one person; in essence he represented all of them. Through their giving and caring they set a character for their neighborhood-one where its members were a self-reliant coalition-truly a neighborhood and a community. They did not turn to the government or any public assistance; they turned to each other. You see power is within the people, it is within you and me. These united neighbors used the power of kindness and care to make a difference.

True power is not in what we take but in what we give, in what build, in the difference that we make in ourselves, others and the world around us. Imagine the cost in paying twenty people to care for you, to cook for you and actually come to spend their hard earned free time with you. These people are not receiving a paycheck, the currency being exchanged here is kindness and they willingly give it. They understand that the kindness they give would come back to them many times over but most importantly they did it because morally for them it simply was the right thing to do. You cannot pay someone to actually care, to extend warmth, kindness, patience and joy to you. Simply put you cannot buy this type of care the costs are astronomical monetarily speaking, but easily affordable through a few acts of kindness

In our world today we mistakenly believe that true power is in money and how much you have. True power is within us through the difference we make within ourselves, others and the world around us. This difference is based on the currencies that we use. Money is a means of exchange and what others call a grand amplifier. It allows us to exchange for some of the things we desire and it amplifies in part who we are through what we do with it. But currencies are what we must use to pay our way through life. Money has no soul, no character and no heart we cannot use it in place of currencies like kindness and care.

Currencies like kindness, care, dedication, passion, persistence, work ethic, volunteering, appreciation, time can and will pay your way through life. They may be what you use to acquire money and money will allow you to amplify your efforts when it comes to these currencies. With money you can show more care because you can give more time to what matters most to you. However if you skip using these currencies and use money in their place that is when we see the world as it is today, lacking humanity.

I will end with this. Michael Jordan the greatest basketball player of all time gave quite a memorable Hall of Fame inductee speak a few years back. He said to the owner of the bulls, Jerry it wasn’t the organization that was out there with the flu half dead helping the team to win it was me making that sacrifice. Michael Jordan felt the owner of the Bulls always believed the organization meant more than the efforts of one person. He did not realize that Michael Jordan was not in it just for the money, it did not push him to be the best to overcome at times immeasurable obstacles when he scarified his personal life and health to be a champion. After all those years beyond all the millions of dollars spent, Jordan just wanted the owner to appreciate the sacrifices he personally took it upon himself to make in order to lead the team to victory.

Can you see how powerful it would be just to show someone that you appreciate them?

Why the Hell is Life So Tough

I can remember late at night staring up at the ceiling. I was wondering to myself how did my life get to where it is and why the hell is life so tough. I was working for a company that was in the process of going under after just leaving another company that was in the process of going under. The former company attempted to sue me and after paying costly lawyer fees to protect myself here I was. I felt lost but found all at the same time because I knew I was right where I am supposed to be. You see my situation was not only something that I created but something that was created for me.

Often the trials and tribulations the “hell” that we go through in life is to prepare us for something greater a “heaven on earth” or Promised Land. I believe my current situation was happening because I was settling and God could not allow me to settle for anything less than my true purpose in life. Through the hell that I was going through I was being given the opportunity to grow and become the person necessary to achieve what was meant for me.  God was pushing me to be more.  I know and I believe that my purpose here on earth is to lead humanity into the Promised Land, where we live in purpose and meaning through making a difference in ourselves others and the world around us.

We have all been there you have I have. Staring at some ceiling wondering how our lives became such a mess and why the hell is life so tough. You are a good person, you give, you work hard, why does this keep happening to you? Have you ever wondered what is beyond the mess and what would happen if you did something different, if instead of running from the situation you ran to it?  What would happen if in your life you pursued purpose and meaning allowing the “hell” to be your stepping stones to growth and success. God has more in store for you, your life has a meaning, you serve a greater purpose and there is a Promised Land set aside for you. You just have to realize it first. And we realize the Promised Land through 7 basic but essential principles:

  1. Moral Integrity, the foundation of humanity
  2. Character, who we are and what we are about
  3. Belief, the starting point of achievement
  4. Self-Empowerment, truly educating yourself
  5. Change/Challenge/Growth, critical keys for changing our life.
  6. Purpose and Meaning, what we do and why we do it
  7. Vision, the fundamental aspect to creating a fulfilling life.

These principles will allow you to not only change your life but to realize true purpose and meaning.  They will allow you to truly be significant in the world. Our world is changing, the economy is faltering, business is in a tailspin, education is losing its’ prior benefits and morally we are losing the most humane aspects of ourselves. What worked for us before is not working for us now and life is getting a whole hell of a lot harder. It’s time for a change, it’s time for meaning, it’s time for purpose it’s time for us to achieve God’s promise. It’s time for us to climb that long awaited mountaintop and achieve the Promised Land.